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Recently
a couple contacted me because the wife was avoiding sex. Some
nights Sherry would go to bed earlier than Frank and be fast
asleep by the time he came upstairs. Other nights she would
sit with him watching TV in the den until he fell asleep in the
recliner,
then she'd tiptoe up to bed.
By
the time they called me, they were making love only once a month.
They both felt inadequate, resentful, and lonely, and were testy
and short-tempered.
That's
one of the ironies about sex. It can bring two people into the
deepest connection, or leave them feeling frustrated, rejected,
and abandoned.
After
getting to know Frank and Sherry, I gave them three homework
assignments to do over the next three weeks, and said I didn't
want to see them until they had done all three. I also asked
them to agree not to have sex until after I gave them the go-ahead.
Frank
called me a week later, excited and delighted. After completing
just the first assignment, they were starting to cuddle, kiss
passionately, and stroke each other more than they had even when
they were dating.
A
week later Sherry called and asked if they could speed up the
process, because they'd completed all three assignments and wanted
to get on to the next step.
Within
a few weeks she was out buying sexy underwear, he was making
getaway reservations, and they were joyfully experiencing some
of the activities that Sherry used to call weird.
Now
she sometimes calls him at work and whispers over the phone what
she'd like them to do that night. Her inhibitions and his self-doubt
are gone, and they are both becoming masterful at lovemaking.
I'll
call this couple Bill and Kitty. Their complaint was, as Bill
put it, "I can get it up but I can't keep it up." His erectile
problems had begun a year earlier, but instead of shrugging them
off as temporary or seeking professional help, he had kept on
trying with more and more disappointing results.
I
gave them three homework assignments, too. One was the
same as one I'd given Sherry and Frank, and the others were different.
By
their anniversary a couple of months later, all was well. They
sent me a Valentine thanking me for helping them reunite their
hearts as well as their bodies.
